It’s my wedding anniversary today – I only noticed because I had finished writing another article and was entering it onto my spreadsheet with the date, when I realised. I gave it some thought, and a goal achievement lesson came to mind, so I thought I’d pass it on…
October 14th 1989. A bright sunny crisp day, much like today as it happens. I went out for a lovely run earlier, which always gives me a feel good factor, and boy did I feel good all those 23 years ago.
We weren’t getting married because she was pregnant. We weren’t getting married because of any financial benefit. We were getting married because we loved each other, and wanted to.
If I look back all those years, it feels like I am looking back at another person. A hell of a lot has happened since then, which you would expect in 23 years, but since we aren’t married any more, I don’t often use Oct 14th as a mental ‘staging post’.
She went out for a pint of milk one day and never came back. I was devastated – that powdered stuff just isn’t the same…
In fact many years the date just doesn’t occur to me, but this year I seem to be struck by what I might have been thinking back then.
Did I know what I would be doing in 2012?
Did I have a set goal in mind for today?
I was working in the music industry at the time, and was settling myself in and learning as I went along.
My mind was not thinking 23 years ahead. In all honesty I did think I would still be married, but apart from that, nothing fixed.
If I think forward another 23 years, blimey I’ll be old by then, but who knows where I’ll be, what I’ll be doing, or who I’ll be doing it with!
Think about your own journey. Go back to Oct 14th 1989, and think whether you had set goals, whether you had any idea about what you’d be doing in 2012. Then maybe think forward 23 years, to 2035 (gulp). Where will you be?
Now, let’s be honest, 23 years is a huge amount of time. Probably too long to make goals that are *too* rigid, life just doesn’t work that way. Here’s something you can do though…
Make that same journey forward in your mind, and imagine yourself looking back to now, to 2012. Will you look back with satisfaction that you went for your goals, whether you achieved them or not?
Or, will you look back with regret that you didn’t even try. Lots of people are able to look back with that satisfaction I mentioned, which is great, but equally lots of people look back with the regret.
It doesn’t have to be that way. As I said, setting a goal for 23 years in the future is a tricky one, but you can set the goal of being able to look back and tell yourself that you went for it.
That’s the goal achievement lesson I got from today’s 23rd wedding anniversary – well, that and ‘run like hell!’
Ok, that’s it for today – do let me have your feedback, and share, like tweet etc iof you enjoyed it!
‘Til Next Time,
Health & happiness,
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