I wrote in an article recently that I had taken a bit of time to ease off on online interaction, as I had slipped into a bit of a funk. I thought I’d go further into that in this article…
In that previous article I had written that I did occasionally slip into these funks due to ‘things’ in my past. It’s easy to package up our past with labels, and ‘things’ is about as simple a label as you can get!
In my case, those ‘things’ were a relationship breakdown and slipping into depression.
When it first started, I found myself feeling nervous all the time. I don’t mean nervous with thoughts of worry, but a nervous feeling around my body. I tried to talk myself out of it, and I tried to think myself out of it, trying to convince myself I could sort myself out by myself.
I had got myself into a pretty bad state, genuinely worried about my mental health, when someone who knows what they are talking about told me I needed to go to my doctor. I didn’t want to, but went along, and it didn’t take him long to diagnose the depression.
Once I knew what it was, I could step back and look at the situation in a different light. It was the chemical imbalances in my body that were causing the depression, and were causing the adrenaline surges, and the adrenaline surges were causing worry which was causing more adrenaline.
I could then move forward on a road to recovery, through chemical and talk therapy, and when I had setbacks, I could deal with them armed with knowledge.
That’s the key.
Because I now had more knowledge, I was far better equipped to deal with that situation. That’s something which carries on up to today. When I slip into a funk, I am able to recognise it for what it is, and then just step back and let it pass without giving it any more concern than that.
Setbacks can happen when you set out towards your goals.
Setbacks can happen when you choose to improve yourself.
In fact it’s probably better say that setbacks *will* happen, and it’s how you deal with them that’s important. You can tell yourself that the setback is the end of the road, or you can look at the setback, gain the knowledge to understand it, and then gain the knowledge to move forwards.
When I had the relationship breakdown and depression, I had already been a believer in self talk, and in goal achievement theory. That’s why I had been expecting to be able to deal with it myself.
It turned out though, that I just didn’t have the knowledge I needed at the time. I went and got the knowledge, and it took me listening to someone else to persuade me to take that step.
If I make depression sound like it was easily solved, believe me it wasn’t. It was a long haul and massive setback for my ambitions, particularly my entertainment ambitions.
Look to your goals – do you have setbacks which seem like terminal roadblocks? Let me know because it could be that you are just missing some knowledge. Do you have a depression situation? Let me know, because talking about it to someone who has experienced it can be hugely beneficial.
If you slip into a funk, make a decision and take action to get the funk out!
Do let me know what you think, leave a comment below or share on facebook, etc.
‘Til Next Time,
Health & happiness,
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P.P.S. Here’s that other article I mentioned – Why I’m Getting Back On It..!