In this article I’m looking at something which holds so many people back from achieving their goals, from following their passions…
“There are plenty of people waiting to say you’re not good enough. Make sure you don’t put *yourself* at the front of the queue.”
Let’s get right to it – there are indeed plenty of people waiting to say you’re not good enough. Some of them will say it behind your back to others, some of them will have no problem saying it right to your face.
Some of them you can move your life away from, which I think you should, but some of them might be in your life for the foreseeable future.
They may say you’re not good enough because they actually believe it, maybe they think you don’t have the skills. They may say it because they think you have ideas above your station, that your passions and/or ambitions are above the status of people like you.
They may say it because they can see that you most certainly *do* have the skills needed, and will succeed if you go for it, which might leave them behind, or they may say it because they are jealous.
They might be friends, they might be family, they might be total strangers.
Phew! That’s quite a list of people who might say it, and quite a list of why they might say it.
There’s no getting away from it in life, but as I said, you *can* get away from some of the people that put you down. Your brain gets used to the people around you, it will influence your attitude, and your attitude will influence your actions, and your actions will influence your results.
So, given that there are so many people ready to say you’re not good enough, why oh why would you put yourself at the front of the queue!!
You will undoubtedly have been tainted by the negative people around you. Distancing yourself from them is a good thing, and surrounding yourself with people who are positive to your passions and ambitions is a good thing.
You also need to work on yourself though – your self talk.
In all likelihood you tell yourself you aren’t good enough because it’s a symptom of fear. If you tell yourself you’re not good enough, you give yourself a reason to stop, or not even try in the first place.
That gets you out of having to confront your fears, which could be fear of failure, fear of how hard it may be, fear of change, fear of what the people around you will say.
So, it’s understandable why people do it, because telling yourself you aren’t good enough creates a comfort blanket to snuggle into.
It’s not very comfortable really though, is it!
It may seem comfortable, but deep down you know it’s a false comfort, because behind that comfort is the knowledge that you aren’t pursuing your passions, your joys. You know that you aren’t fulfilling your potential, you know that you aren’t living life to the full, not living the life you could, and should, be living.
So no, not comfortable really.
Once we accept that we are doing this, we can take steps to turn it around. You can look at the queue of people waiting to bring you down with words, and you can decide that not only will you *not* be first in the queue, you’ll instead stand at the front and say that you *are* good enough!
You’ll say you are worthy of pursuing your passions and goals. If you already have the skills you’ll start putting them to use, and if you don’t have the skills, you’ll learn them.
Don’t accept people saying you aren’t good enough, and this starts by not saying it to yourself! Challenge it when other people say it to you, and this starts by challenging it when you say it to yourself.
Why aren’t you good enough? Who says so? What’s it based on? Where’s the evidence? You need the answers to all these questions, and once you have the answers, you can begin to replace them with answers about why you ARE good enough.
Look to your own attitude here. Do you allow others to say it about you? Do you allow yourself to say it about you? If so, it’s time to change. Try the other way, coming from a default position that you are good enough. It can be a life changer.
Let me know what you think, I love the feedback!
‘Til Next Time,
Health & Happiness,
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