Small Breaks In Integrity Don’t Matter, Right..?

In this article I’m looking at one of my quote images dealing with integrity…

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Small breaks integrity don’t matter, right? Er, wrong.

 

Ah integrity.

 

In my mind, even the word itself sounds good. For me it brings up thoughts of ‘doing the right thing’, which has me nodding my head, thinking how much better everything is when we act that way.

 

There are various definitions of ‘integrity’ – for me it boils down to treating other people properly. Being considerate to others, allowing them to have their own opinion, to do their own things.

It means talking about them from a position of respect, saying nothing behind someone’s back for example that you wouldn’t say to their face. It means not harming others, or their property, or their rights.

It means working hard at what you do, even when no-one’s watching. If an employer is paying you to do a job, you do that job.

 

I also believe that a key angle when thinking about integrity, is acting with integrity towards *ourselves*. If we look after our own opinions, our own goals, if we treat ourselves properly, we are acting with integrity. If we talk to ourselves about ourselves from that position of respect, that’s integrity.

 

If we put in as much work on ourselves as we do for our employer or others, even if we don’t feel like it, that’s integrity.

 

All sounds great doesn’t it, all well and good! That’s because I think it *is* great! When we act with integrity, we not only make the world a better place for ourselves, we make it a better place for others too.

 

If that’s the case then, why would anyone act without integrity..?

That’s a good question, and it forms the basis of the point I’m making in this article.
We act without integrity when it becomes difficult, when we can’t be bothered.

Sometimes we don’t have the time, or life in general is shoving a load of stress our way. In times like that, thinking of others is not quite the easy rainbow it might be when just thinking of the word!

 

This also applies to that integrity towards ourselves. If we find it difficult to go for our goals, if we hit an obstacle, it feels easier to just give up. We might like the idea of being on a diet to lose weight, but the thought of that chocolate means it’s ok to have some, and the diet can wait until tomorrow.

 

There is no doubt, acting with integrity can be hard! That’s why we slip, that’s why we have those breaks in integrity. The small breaks, they don’t matter though, right?

 

Er, wrong!

 

The small breaks *do* matter, for two reasons.
Firstly, it sometimes only needs a small break in integrity to have a big impact, either on ourselves or on others.

The wrong words at the wrong time, the wrong action at the wrong time – the power of these is not to be dismissed. It can take a long time to put right the damage that can be caused by these small breaks.

 

The second reason that the small breaks matter, is that they are the little cracks in the dam. If we get used to the little breaks being ok, then the little breaks become the norm, so we can add new little breaks to them.

It doesn’t take too long before the breaks come together, and the whole dam of integrity collapses, and we just do away with the whole idea.

 

That’s not good, to put it mildly. When we do away with integrity altogether, the world becomes a worse place, a worse place for ourselves, and a worse place for those around us, and it’ll be our own doing!

 

It’s not all doom and gloom though!

 

You’ll know by now that I choose to take the positive way of looking at life, so here’s what I think we should do about the small breaks in integrity…

 

In an ideal world, we shouldn’t have any breaks in integrity at all, but I know that none of us live in cloud cuckoo land, so we have to accept that breaks in integrity *will* happen.

 

The first way to deal with it, is to simply accept that fact, that the breaks will happen. The good side of the breaks happening, is that we *see* them as breaks, because that means that the break in integrity is not the norm, it’s integrity that’s the norm!

 

Once we accept that, we can then deal with it by getting annoyed with ourselves! I get really annoyed with myself if I think I’ve acted without integrity, either towards myself or others. I can find it quite upsetting.

 

However, I use that annoyance and frustration with myself to close the break! If we take responsibility for our thoughts and actions, we can go to the second move for dealing with the breaks, which is to decide to not accept the integrity break as the norm, but to decide to do our very best to not let it happen again.

 

That involves work, because it means we have to analyse what happened, and prepare ourselves to act differently next time. It can be an effort, but of course, to put in that effort is in itself to act with integrity!

 

I find this whole idea a key lifestyle issue. It may sound corny to talk about acting with integrity. It may sound corny to talk about not settling for breaks in integrity as being ok.

 

If it sounds corny, then so be it, because I believe it’s a game changer – it’s quite simply a path to a better life, and it why I say something I’ve said before, and will be saying again, that the small breaks in integrity *do* matter!

 

Ok, I’d love to hear what you think, do leave a comment!

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & happiness,

Gordon

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In this article I’m taking another personal development look at one of my quote images, and for this one you might need your climbing boots…

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“The man on top of the mountain didn’t fall there” – Vince Lombardi.

 

Right from the get go, let me say that yes, yes, I know the picture is not of a mountain! I took that picture on Ailsa Craig in Scotland, and I’ll come back to that later, and tell you why it still works with the quote!

 

What a quote it is too! Vince Lombardi came up with some crackers, and it’s no surprise that his motivational skills were held in such high esteem.

 

Coach of the Green Bay Packers for pretty much the whole of the 1960s, he took them to the top of the game, winning the first 2 Superbowls. After he died in 1970, the NFL named the trophy after him, so right up to this day, it’s the Lombardi Trophy that the teams play for.

 

It’s one of the biggest events in world sport. It’s not a global event to take *part* in as its just a national league, but it’s one of the most *watched* global events, and it bears Vince’s name.

 

So, how did he get take his team and himself to the top of the game? Well, in one word – work.

 

Work.

 

Yes, he had refreshing tactical skills, and those motivational skills, but the motivation was to get the players to work.

He had a ferocious work ethic, and expected the players to have the same. Any player that didn’t, well they weren’t his player for long!

 

This is why I love the quote so much, because if you think of a man at the bottom of a mountain, and imagine him trying to fall to the top, he’ll just fall to the ground! So, if that’s not going to get it done, the only way is to start climbing.

 

You decide to climb, you learn how to climb, you prepare to climb, but all of that will get you precisely nowhere, you’ll still be at the bottom of the mountain, unless you put your first foot somewhere, and your first hand somewhere. Then you had better get ready for the hard work!

 

Too many people go for the falling down option, then moan about the fact that others are at the top of the mountain! Oh really? Why would that be then?

 

Is it because life is unfair, difficult, with barriers in the way? Or is it because you weren’t prepared to work?
Now, I’m not saying that life is always fair, that it’s always easy, that there aren’t barriers, that would be silly.

What I *am* saying though, is that work, hard work, lots of hard work, can take you to the places you want to go.

 

I like another quote from a current motivational leader, Brendon Burchard, who says we should not be surprised that when opportunity knocks, it’s hard work that answers the door!

 

I call ‘action’ one of the 4 magic words beginning with ‘A’, because without it, you really shouldn’t be surprised if you don’t get the results.

 

I did say I’d go back to my use of that particular photo of mine rather than one of a mountain…

 

Well, for a start, I haven’t *taken* any photos of mountains (yet), but nevertheless I think this photo works.

Ailsa Craig is where all the curling stones come from, and since it’s a sporting passion for me (yes I love the NFL too!), I made the trip of several hundred miles to go and see the actual place.

 

I could have stayed at home, looking at other people’s photos, wishing I had gone, or I could make the effort, take the action, and get on and go myself. That’s what I did.

As it happened, the weather was kind, and I was able to take picture from dawn to dusk, and it’s a day that will be a special memory for me. That didn’t happen by sitting on the couch at home.

 

When I went over to the rock, which is a few miles off the coast, I could see that tower up there. Actually it’s nowhere near the top of the rock, but the angles of the photo drive home how difficult it must have been to get it built!

 

To get that tower built all the way up there would taken a lot of…yep…work.!

 

Whoever built it could have just been lying down at the bottom, moaning about why someone else hadn’t done it, or how life was unfair – but they didn’t.

 

Look to your own goals – what do you want to do in life? What would tap into your joys and passions, what makes you feel alive? It could be climbing to the top of an *actual* mountain – I’ll happily admit that’s not at the top of my own list, but if it is, then of course you’ll need to work hard, and talking of actual mountain climbing…

 

Success won’t be guaranteed. You might not get to the top. It could be that the weather is too bad. It could be that you get frostbite. It could be that an ice ledge gives way. Despite all the work you put in, these outside factors cannot be controlled.

 

Mountaineering is dangerous, and if it goes wrong, it can be fatal. No guarantees of success, but still needing the work, and that’s another reason why Vince Lombardi’s mountain quote works so well.

 

To wrap up this look at the quote and the image, once you’ve got to the top of the mountain, does the work stop?

 

Er, no, the work carries on! In the case of being on an actual mountain, often the work getting back down again can be ever harder work than getting up there. The effort has to be maintained – switch it off, and it can all fall apart pretty quickly!

 

So as I say, your goal might not be mountaineering! Whatever it is though, are you prepared to work? It might be hard, it might be difficult, it might be unpleasant. That means you might decide you don’t want the work.

 

That’s fine, as long as you accept that as a choice you’ve made, and accept the lack of results that follow.

 

Or you could decide that you *are* ready for the work. It will put you ahead, miles ahead, of others who don’t put in the work, and it really can take you to some heights that will amaze you.

 

Try it, the view up there can change your life, it can *transform* it!

 

Ok, I’d love to hear what you think as ever – do leave a comment below.

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & happiness,

Gordon

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Here’s another closer look at one of my quote images, and it’s another simple one…

 

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If you want something to happen in your life but don’t know how, you can:
1) Give up.
2) Learn how.

 

I said it was one of the simpler ones! It’s a simple image – no fancy photos, no fancy graphics, just a few words on a background, with a fairly stark choice.

Is the actual *message* simple though? Well, it’s put simply, and it seems simple at first glance, but there’s value in taking a closer look at the layers behind the message…

 

When I say ‘if you want something to happen in your life,’, I’m predominantly talking about goals. That could be in any area – lifestyle, relationships, wealth, career, or health. It could something would need someone *else* to act differently.

 

Obviously it’s an individual thing, but for the point behind this article, let’s take it as something you think ‘oh I wish’ about, ok?

 

Oh, I wish…

 

The reason most people stay at the ‘I wish’ level, instead of doing something about it, is that they go for the first of the 2 choices.

 

They give up.

 

They give up because they don’t know how to do it. They don’t even know how to learn how to do it, or maybe don’t even know that they *can* learn how to do it!

There are many reasons for people taking this option, and although the ‘not knowing how’ is put out as the *reason*, that’s not the real reason. It can’t be the real reason, because unless they are the first person ever to want what they want (unlikely) then someone else will have done it before.

 

That means the knowledge is out there, which means it can be learnt.

So, if that’s not the real reason behind giving up, what is?

 

I’d say it’s mostly fear. Fear of it being difficult. Difficult to even learn how to do, then difficult to go and do it!

 

Difficult to put up with people laughing at you, or trying to hold you back. Difficult to cope with the change it may bring. Difficult to cope with possible setbacks along the way, and difficult to cope with the potential for failure. Difficult to deal with possible finance issues that go with it.

 

Phew, that sounds difficult!
Easy to see why people hide behind an excuse of ‘not knowing how’.

 

The truth is, it *might* be difficult to go for what you truly want in life. In fact, it’s more likely to involve difficulty than not!

That’s just the way it is, although that doesn’t make it reason enough to not go for it. Not if you really want it. Not if the reasons behind you wanting it are solid enough, because then you’ll take the difficulties as sign of progress towards your goal.

 

Once you get these mindset issues sorted, get your underlying reasons for wanting your goal clear in your mind, (and written down!), then you start to generate your own motivation, your own desire, and your own action, and this will prompt you to take the second option instead…

 

You learn how.

 

Oh, that’s exciting!

 

Not only do you believe the fact that you can learn how, you believe in your own ability to learn how. If that means asking for help, and it probably will, then ask for help!

 

If it means taking on difficulties I mentioned earlier, you’ll take them on, because learning how to make something happen in your life is such a vital step in actually getting things to happen, that once you take the step, that in itself is action which sets the wheels in motion.

Then habit kicks in, which in turn fuels the self perpetuating motivation engine, and you are off and running!

 

Did I say that it’s exciting!

 

If you’re reading this article, then you have access to the internet, and I often call that a staggering abundance of opportunity. Before the internet, in order to learn how to do things, we’d have to buy a physical book, or go to live training, and it wasn’t always easy to know where to start to look for the best teaching.

 

Now with the internet, the knowledge is available to us at the click of a few buttons!
It’s unbelievable.

 

It could be that you still have to pay to learn, whether that’s an ebook, a course perhaps, or maybe one to one coaching, but the knowledge is not hard to access, and more than that we can also find out *where* the best knowledge is! We can compare various options and resources, do some research before deciding on the learning road that suits us.

 

Then, and you won’t be surprised to hear me say this, it’s down to us!

In my case, it’s down to me, In your case, it’s down to you.

 

It’s down to you to take responsibility for whether you decide to learn or not. No-on else can make that choice for you, and it *is* a choice!

 

So, look to the things you want in life – do you know how to do them? If you do, then you should be getting on with it(!) but for the point of this article, if you *don’t* know how to do it, which choice are you going to make?

 

Are you going to give up, or are you going to learn how? Here’s a clue to finish with- if you’ve read to the end of this article, you’ve already answered the question: you’re a learner! Now go out and apply it to your goals!

 

Ok, I’d love to hear what you think as ever – do leave a comment!

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & happiness,

Gordon

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For this look at another of my personal development images, I’m going with a wonderful thought…

 

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I took that photo in Kent, UK, at a place called the Coldrum Stones. It’s an ancient burial site, and the photo was taken at sunrise just before the summer solstice. (Going to these places on the *actual* summer solstice is disappointingly best avoided these days – the traffic is horrendous, and the places are swarming with hippies!)

 

If you go a day or so beforehand though, you get the full peace and quiet of the dawn and the sunrise. In a word, it’s magnificent.

 

You can hear the sounds around you as nature wakes up, and the air has that fresh feel to it, a feel of the ‘new.’

That’s why I chose that picture to go with the words…

 

“This is a wonderful day. I’ve never seen this one before.”

 

Those words are a quote from the American writer Maya Angelou. She had a lovely poetic way with her words, and this quote is no exception.

It’s a great way of putting it, isn’t it! When you combine it with the thought of breathing in the ‘new’ air of the dawn, as the sun rises once again, and it’s well worth considering the two parts of the quote.

 

The first part says ‘This is a wonderful day.’ I’d add to that by saying ‘and why not!’
Why *shouldn’t* it be a wonderful day? Why can’t it be? Therefore, why won’t it be!

Now, I can hear the doubters piping up, that it’s not always as simple as that, we don’t actually live in fairy tales or nursery rhymes, and thinking that a day will be wonderful just because we say so, is a childish approach.

 

Hmm…

 

I’d respond by saying that it’s perfectly true to say that we don’t live in actual fairy tales! Life can be hard, I’m not saying it can’t be. Life can be *extremely* hard.

I’m not saying that any hardships or difficulties will disappear just because we say the day is going to be wonderful. That would clearly be nonsense, but one of the main reasons why people dismiss the entire personal development field is that they think that personal development writers, speakers or coaches *are* saying that!

 

Yes, life can be difficult, but if we can’t always control those difficulties, we can always control how we react to them, and that’s a key point here. If we choose, and it is a choice, if we choose to accept that difficulties will happen in life, but choose to focus on the positives and deal with the negatives, then the difficulties become easier. Now that *is* something a lot of people in the self improvement field say, and there’s some brain science to back it up!

 

That brain science is to do with the neural pathways and internal models in our brain. If we focus on the negatives, we build up an internal model which has the negative slant, and consequently we have that as the default setting when our brain interprets the input from the world around us.

 

We can change that model. It might take a while and practice, but if we decide to do it, then we make the effort to view the input from the world in a positive way, and this will gradually change our internal models to have a positive slant.

Yes, life can be hard and difficult, but it can also be glorious and wonderful, and we need to be open to seeing the joyful parts.

 

That’s where the philosophical concept of thinking it’s a wonderful day combines with actual brain science, and that’s when it gets exciting!

 

This brings me to the second part of the quote…

 

“I’ve never seen this one before.”

 

I find that beautifully put, because none of us have, have we? We all face a new day with the same 24 hours, but we’re 24 hours older, and the earth has spun – in other words, things have changed.

Other people will have changed, other circumstances will have changed. Some of the changes will have nothing to do with us, some of the changes will have been deliberately engineered by us. However, none of us have seen *this* day before.

 

As you read this, whenever, you read it , wherever you read it, you won’t have seen this day before. You won’t see it again either.

When you think of it like that, doesn’t it make sense to go through the days with a sense of wonder at how they will go, choosing to view things in a positive way?

 

The day will only be around for one day, then it’ll be gone, so I think Maya hit the spot with her wonderful words – “This is a wonderful day. I’ve never seen this one before.”

 

Do let me know what you think – I love the feedback!

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & Happiness,

Gordon

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We Don’t Stop Playing Because We Grow Old…

In this article I’m looking at another of my quote images, and it’s a playful point…

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“We don’t stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing”

 

That’s from George Bernard Shaw, Irish dramatist, and what a quote it is!

 

It’s well used in the personal development space, and it’s not hard to see why – it flows nicely, the phrase has a ying yang balanced feel to it, and it very concisely makes a point that prods an emotional response.

 

It prods and stirs at an emotion we get when we think back to the old days, the days of our youth, the days when we could play with abandon. The days when we could play without inhibition, the days when we could play unburdened by responsibility.

 

The days when we could play.

 

We look back to those days, because we *have* to look back, because that’s where we find those days, in the past. It’s not like that now for us though, is it?

Now, we’ve grown older, so playing is not on the agenda. We*have* the responsibilities, so we have to be serious and focus, we have to be sensible, we have to be ‘grown up’.

 

Really? Do we? Why?

 

Most people, clearly not everyone, but most people, don’t ask the ‘why’ question, they just accept it as one of those things, as just the way life is. It really doesn’t have to be like that though, there are other ways…

 

You might be thinking ‘Hang on! Hang on a minute! Are you suggesting that we should just forget responsibility and go and play on the swings?’

No, I’m not suggesting that. That would be silly. It *is* the way that some people choose to go, but they are doing a disservice to those around them when they do it, and they’re doing a disservice to themselves as well.

 

In fact, if you ‘play’ all the time, then it stops feeling like playing anyway, and then what do have left if you’ve ignored responsibility along the way!

So, no, I’m certainly not suggesting an abandonment of responsibility! What I *am* saying, is that if we take that idea of responsibility, and turn it back onto ourselves, don’t we have a responsibility to allow ourselves to play? Don’t we owe it to ourselves to not only allow it, but actively schedule time slots specifically for playing?

 

Oh yes! Yes we do owe it to ourselves!

When we play, it’s a great way to tap into our real selves, to get away from the things that bother us, and if that means we mentally take ourselves back to childhood for a while, that’s no bad thing!

 

It allows us to refocus, to re-energise, to remind ourselves of what our real passions are, what makes us feel alive, and of course to look at Shaw’s words again, it helps to stop us grow old! (or at least stop growing old before our time!)

 

One theory in the self improvement field is that when we play, because we are tapping so much into our ’real’ selves, that we should use this as a process – once we reignite that feeling, and acknowledge it, we should then work out how we can make a living doing it!

 

That can be a revelation.

 

I’ve done it in my time, from working in the music business, from working as an entertainer – I chose to make a living from what touched the real me.

 

Of course a counter argument to that, is that as soon as we start making our pleasures into our work, then we ruin the pleasure, because the trials and tribulations that come with any career will make us turn away from the original passion.

 

Hmm, I don’t agree.

 

I do agree that the trials and tribulations will come, because to say otherwise would be fantasy, and I experienced it in the music business, I experienced it as an entertainer, I experienced it myself being self employed. Oh yes, they come!

 

Here’s the thing – those trials and tribulations will come *whatever* we do! If that’s the case then, why not choose to face them on a path of our choosing, because if we do that, then deep down we will always know that we didn’t stop playing, that we are in line with our passions.

 

It makes a huge difference, it can transform a life from one where the idea of playing has been stored away in a box marked ‘youth’ to a life where the idea of playing is front and centre!

 

Of course, the idea of playing doesn’t have to be as grand as a fully fledged career, it could just be a case of doing more of what we enjoy as hobbies. Think of what you enjoy doing, that makes you smile, whether that’s a walk in the park, or going swimming.

 

If it’s been too long since you last did it, get out your schedule, and create a time slot for it! Then schedule another time slot, and another. The feelgood factor it creates is not just nostalgia, there is brain science behind it, to do with the chemical reactions triggered in our brain, and the health benefits that brings along.

 

A more in depth look at that brain science is for another time, but suffice to say – it’s good for us!

 

Get used to allowing yourself to play, whatever that means to you. It’s not something we should stop simply because we’ve grown older – I’d agree with Bernard Shaw, it’s the playing that *stops* us growing old!

 

Ok, I’d love to hear what you think – do leave a comment!

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & happiness,

Gordon

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I’m looking at another of my quote images, and it might be a case of smoothing the corners…

 

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I took that picture of a lovely tree tunnel. I had seen pictures of the tree tunnel before, and when I found out where it was, I took the 2 hours odd drive to Halnaker in West Sussex, and got snapping!

 

When I started to make my quote images, the idea of wondering was at the end of any tunnel seemed to work for me, so I’ve used it as a starting point to look at fear of moving forwards…

 

There are many fears that stop people moving forwards, and the fear of change is right up there on the list!

 

Change is inevitable if we set out on the path of self improvement, personal development and goal achievement. That may seem obvious, because in order for results to change, the actions have to change, and in order for actions to change, attitude has to change.

 

That’s a lot of change, and it scares the living daylights out of a lot of people!

 

It’s so scary, because the changes will move life away from the present circumstances which we are used to, towards a life which we cannot predict. Yes, we can make educated guesses, and we may be fairly sure about the changes, but it could be argued that we can’t be *sure.

 

Of course some personal development or goal achievement moves will involve changes that might be real leaps in the dark, that we genuinely don’t know what will happen.

 

It might be a change in our circle of friends, or how family views us. It might mean a job change, or change in living arrangements. It might mean moving to a completely new area, or another country!

 

It might a change in lifestyle habits, or a change from the safety net of a regular pay check to the uncertain world of self employment.

 

It could be it’s the change in ‘ourselves’ that the progress would bring that scares us the most.

 

So, having covered all the possible changes, and accepting that the unknown can be scary, it’s no surprise that it stops people moving forwards at all, right?

 

Well, no, it’s no surprise, but sometimes it’s used as an *excuse*, and it doesn’t have to be that way.

There are ways of dealing with the fear of change, and here’s something else that isn’t a surprise, I’ve going to cover 2 of them..!

 

Firstly, since fear of possible change is just that, fear of *possible* change, it might be helped by simply looking at it in a different way – that it might not be as bad as you think!

 

If we think back to how many times in our life we have said ‘oh, that wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be,’ it will be a *lot* of times! Fears over the future simply turn out to be not bas bad as we thought, more often than not. I’m not saying there will never be changes that we don’t like, but we just don’t need to let the fear of it hold us back.

 

It’s wasted energy, and it’s misplaced energy.

 

The second way I like to view the fear of change is to view it as *opportunity* of change instead!

Remember, the particular fears I’m talking about come about when we look at personal development, at setting goals. The whole point of us going through that process is to bring our lives more back in line with our passions, our joys, our soul.

 

If that’s the case, then the changes around the corner should be looked forward to rather than feared, because it means we are on the road to the more fulfilling life for ourself – yes, it will be a change, but it will be a *good* change!

 

We can take the attitude of ‘oh, I wonder what it will look like?’ with excitement rather than trepidation, because if we are directing the change, and we find we don’t like it, we can change it again!

 

That’s the key – if we let fear of change keep us stuck where we are, then we will still get buffeted by the circumstances life throws at us. That’s just the way it is, and sometimes it’s not always pleasant, so instead of that why *not* choose to be in control, to set changes in progress that *we* want, that we have decided on and acted towards.

 

It’s a much better way to look at it, in my view.

 

So, look to your own tree tunnel in life, the journey along the way can be soaked up and enjoyed, and if you’re worried because you’re not sure what’s around the corner – it might not be anywhere near as bad as you think. I’ve said it before, and I’ll finish by saying it again, get round there and find out!

 

Ok, I’d love to know what you think – do leave a comment!

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & Happiness,

Gordon

P.S. If you’d like to find out more about moving forwards, don’t forget to grab my free 8 step goal achievement formula!

 

 

 

 

Here’s another look at a quote image, and this one goes right to the heart of any changes we want…

"Gordon Bryan", "self improvement",

 

No way to sugar coat this one – without action it’s not going to happen.

 

No nice image behind this one. It’s a simple set of words. An uncompromising set of words, which as they say themselves, have no sugar coating.

 

I’ve chosen to put it that way, because it *is* all about the action. I call it one of the 4 magic words beginning with ‘A’, and it’s clear that for something to change, something has to happen that’s different. If nothing different happens, then nothing will change.

 

I don’t know what your goal is, naturally, but if you look at anyone who has achieved it before, the road to them achieving it is covered in action steps.

 

The naysayers, and I can hear them now, might be saying ‘oh, I can’t take action until so and so does this, or until such and such happens first, or because this and/or that is stopping me!’

 

If someone says that, I always think of the response of starting to ask questions –
– Is that actually true, or is that being used as an excuse to not take action?
– If it’s true that other circumstances, including other people, need to be set up differently before you can take action, what can *you* do to get those circumstances in place?

 

It could be that you are looking at an action too far down the road, looking at the obstacles in the way, when in fact it’s dealing with the obstacle that should be your first action!

 

I do accept that actions of others will have an impact on us. That’s clearly true, and to say otherwise would be nonsense. However, if we rely solely on the actions of others to move us forwards, then you are opening ourselves up to the unpredictability of, well, others! We are signing up to *other* people’s agendas if we rely on them alone.

 

It can bring amazing results if we tell others what we want, and the power of simply asking is a massively underused one. (You won’t be surprised to hear me say that ‘ask’ is another of those magic ‘A’ words!)

 

Will action *always* bring results? Well, that’s a good question!

 

Since there are no guarantees in life, you can’t always definitively say that taking action towards a goal will bring success, but you can say for certain that it will bring *something*!

It will bring a change of some sort though, always, and if that change doesn’t move you towards your goal, you can then assess the results, make adjustments, and then take more action!

 

You can likewise say that if you’re questioning the link between action and results, you can also be fairly sure of what happens in you take no action – nothing!

 

If you don’t take action, if you keep doing what you’ve done before, you’ll keep getting the results you’ve got before. If you’re happy with those results, then fine, and whether you take action or not is always a choice, but as long as you take responsibility for that choice, and the results it brings.

 

If we didn’t take action towards a result, we can’t moan about the lack of result that follows.

 

I’d also say that it’s quite possible that the first action we need to take is on our mindset! If we don’t believe that the results are even possible, or that we are worthy of them, then we are unlikely to take action, which will perpetuate those beliefs.

 

If we make the decision to put in whatever work it needs to change those beliefs, to change our mindset, then this is action taking at its’ finest, because it sets us up not only to start taking action, but to push forwards with the results it brings.

 

Exciting, do you agree..?

 

So, why is the message put across in the image so bluntly? Why the need to point out the lack of sugar coating? Is it basically saying ‘Get off your backside!’

 

Well, pretty much, yes!

 

Don’t moan about lack of results if you took no action.
Don’t expect others to do it for you, and blame them when they don’t.
Take control. Look to your goals, and work out the very next step you would need to take to move towards them, and then accept that’s it down to you, and act on that first step.

 

Once you do that, you’ll see the movement in your life. You might need to make adjustments along the way, you might go down some wrong paths, but it’s *all* moving forwards as you learn.

Momentum kicks in when you take action. Habit kicks in when you take action repeatedly. This feeds motivation, which brings more action, which in turn brings more momentum.

 

Did I say that’s exciting?

 

Try it, and if you’re already trying it, keep going. It can change your life, it can transform it!

 

Do let me know what you think, I love the feedback!

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & happiness,

Gordon

P.S. I did mention my other article 4 Magic Words Beginning With ‘A!’

P.S. If you’d like some help with taking action, take a look at my Transform Your Life Now! coaching programme

 

 

 

 

 

Coaching Birthday Offer

I have a landmark birthday in 2016, so I decided to create a special offer for my coaching programme, to go with it.

 

I made a short video to explain it, and below the video I’ve gone over how you can take advantage of it:

 

Because it’s a special offer, only available for 50 days, the way to go about it, is for you to sign up for the normal price of $29, let me know that you’ve taken advantage of my birthday offer, and I’ll refund you the $28.

 

I hope that make sense, it’s the easiest way to get on board.

I’d love to see you on the inside, and that you’ll enjoy a month’s worth of coaching for just $1!

 

Here’s the link:

http://www.transformyourlifenow.com

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & Happiness,

Gordon

 

 

 

 

 

Here’s another article taking a closer look at one of my quote images, and it’s a photo that captured a lovely moment…

 

"Ailsa Craig", "Gordon Bryan",

 

Don’t wait for life’s great moments to come along. Create them.

 

I took that photo on the beach at Girvan, Scotland, in July 2015. I had gone there to visit Ailsa Craig, where all the curling stones come from – long time readers will know that curling is a passion of mine, so I had driven all the way up to visit the rock!

 

It was such a lovely day that I had been able to snap photos all day long, from dawn around 4 am, through the day visiting the rock itself, and late at night when I took this one.

 

This was taken very late! The summer days last a long time up there, this was way past 10.30, and the sky had been coloured by the (eventually) fading sunlight.

 

The photo looks like I have touched it up – it has an almost painted look to it, but actually that effect comes from a video camera photo which was struggling to get enough of that fading light into through the lens.

 

It did look that nice in reality though, and as I stood there breathing in the warm fresh sea air, at the end of a great day, I realised it was a ‘moment’.

 

It was a moment that I would be able to look back on, and remember how good it felt, and as I look at the picture now, it brings to mind some points to do with the words I put over the top of the image…

 

The first one is a bit of brain science!

 

When we think back and remember ‘life moments’, although we may think we remember the details, if someone asks us to recall the details, we find that in fact what we remember is how we *felt* at that moment. The brain is triggered to recall the specific neural wiring at the time, which is why there are moments, both good and bad, that stick with us.

 

It’s a point used in psychology a lot – if we think back to such a moment, and then use a physical act like squeezing certain fingers together to tie the feeling to the new act, when we come to difficult times in the future we can go back to that physical act, the finger squeezing for example, and fire up that feel good feeling from previous ‘moments!’

 

The second point is one of appreciation. The moments can’t last forever (otherwise they wouldn’t be ‘moments‘!) While it’s true that the feel good memory can apply to periods, years even, which is all good, I’m certainly *not* saying that life is going to be some sort of permanent paradise!

 

It won’t be. It can’t be.

To say otherwise would be a nonsense. In fact, in order to get the elevated memories that the ’moments’ give us, there has to be some downside, otherwise there is no comparison to make.

 

The key is to realise when the feelgood times are happening, and to appreciate them. We must soak up the moment fully, not just to enhance the life experience at the time, but to strengthen that brain memory set up I mentioned earlier, so that when we use it to tap back into later, it’s a strong solid feel ’moment’ memory!

 

The third point I’d make is the one I put at the end of the words on the image about the great moments in life – create them!

 

Enjoying them as and when they come along from circumstance is fine, nothing wrong with that, but don’t just wait for those to come along – take control, go out and create the moments.

 

If you want to do something, do it. If it makes you smile, do it. If it’s been on your mind for a long time, maybe even years, do it.

 

Do it.

 

I had been thinking about going up to visit Ailsa Craig at some point in the future, but eventually I got my finger out and arranged it, and drove several hundred miles. I had no way of guaranteeing the weather of course, I’m not *that* good, but I did take action to create the circumstances which had me breathing in the warm summer sea air watching a glorious harbour sunset at the end of a lovely day.

 

I moved ‘some point in the future’ to ‘now’.
That’s what created the moment.

 

It’s exciting to think of the moments like that we’ve had in the past isn’t it! Think of your own, and feel your brain tapping into how you felt. Make sure you are fully appreciating any current ones that come along, and think to the possible moments you have been mulling over or toying with as future events. Are you going to leave them as merely vague possibles, sometime in the future, or are you going to go out and *create* them!

 

OK, I’d love to hear what you think – do leave a comment!

 

‘Till Next Time,

Health & happiness,

Gordon

P.S. If you’d like to know more about how you can create *your* moments, pop over and grab my free 8 step goal achievement formula

 

 

 

 

 

I’m looking at another quote image in this article, and it might get lonely…

 

"Gordon Bryan", "Whitstable",

 

Do the right thing, and if it means you fly alone, then fly alone.

 

I took that picture down on the Kent coast, enjoying a balmy sunset at Whitstable, and I could see the bird perched on top of the post which looked isolated due to the level of the tide. I was hoping it wouldn’t fly off before I got the picture, and I was lucky!

 

The statement I put over the top of the image actually has many self improvement points in it, so let’s get stuck in..!

 

I’m a big fan of integrity.

 

I always have been, and over the years I like to think I’ve operated with integrity as a foundation to my actions. In fact I get very frustrated when I see others clearly acting without integrity, and I get *very* frustrated with myself if I think I have slipped up myself.

 

For me, integrity is all about doing the right thing, treating other people properly, as you would want them to treat you, for example.

 

That may sound obvious, but it does then beg the question – ‘why do so many people *not* do the right thing?’

 

Phew, there are many answers to that question, but for the purpose of this article, I’d narrow it down to two – lack of education, and peer pressure. It could be that someone genuinely doesn’t know they are not doing the right thing, and that’s where the education comes in. If they’ve been brought up in an environment where certain actions are considered ok or normal, then they’ll act the same way unless they are educated otherwise.

 

That’s where peer pressure comes in. In that environment, even if someone does realise that the way they are acting is not the right way, it can be hard, sometimes dangerous to go down a different road.

 

Family, friends, the media, can all be saying and doing one thing, so if anyone is considering acting a different way, then they have to consider the consequences, possible backlash.

 

Here’s the thing though…

 

It may feel safer, easier, to just go with the flow, to keep your head down, to not make waves. It’s what most people do, so why shouldn’t you just do the same, right?

 

It may feel easier, yes, in the short term, but in the long term? No.

 

In the long term it eats away, because you know it’s not right. You know it’s impacting others in a negative way, and it’s also impacting *you* in a negative way.

 

The longer it carries on, the further away you travel from the real you.

 

So what’s the answer..?

 

The answer is to do the right thing, even if it means flying alone!

 

It might be difficult, but it might be far easier than you think! It could mean that you feel isolated, and that you *are* isolated from the people around you, but if they’re acting in a way you know is wrong, then you should be asking if you want to stay connected to that crowd.

 

Although doing the right thing may isolate you from *some* people, it won’t isolate you full stop, because the world is full of people who choose to do the right thing, and choose to welcome anyone else who acts that way. You’ll find a new crowd to fit into, and it’ll be a crowd that makes you feel better, makes you feel right, makes you feel like you can fly without criticism.

 

Of course, another key point in all of this, is when it comes to doing the right thing towards others, it’s just as valid a point when it comes to doing the right thing towards *yourself*!

 

Follow your passions, go after your goals, chase your dreams. Don’t settle. Don’t put them away in the cupboard marked ‘only dreams’ just because someone else says so. Live the life you know you were meant to be living. That’s the right thing for you, and if means moving away from certain people, so be it.

 

I did say there were many layers to consider with this image, which is why I like it so much! So, get back in line with what you know is the right thing to do, and if you’re not sure, find out!

 

Then be prepared to stand up for it– you might find you bring others along for the right, you might find you plough a new furrow by yourself but oh, the abundance, the satisfaction, the personal development it brings is almost immeasurable.

 

Try it, you might be surprised. You might be transformed!

 

Ok, I’d love to hear what you think – do leave a comment.

 

‘Til Next Time,

Health & happiness,

Gordon

P.S. This is the type of subject I cover in my Transform Your Life Now! coaching programme. Why not pop over and take a look, while you’re there you can grab my free 8 Step Goal Achievement Formula too.

 

 

 

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