Do The Right Thing, And If That Means You Fly Alone, Then Fly Alone.

"Gordon Bryan", "Whitstable",
Written by gordino

I’m looking at another quote image in this article, and it might get lonely…

Do the right thing, and if it means you fly alone, then fly alone.

I took that picture down on the Kent coast, enjoying a balmy sunset at Whitstable, and I could see the bird perched on top of the post which looked isolated due to the level of the tide. I was hoping it wouldn’t fly off before I got the picture, and I was lucky!

The statement I put over the top of the image actually has many self improvement points in it, so let’s get stuck in..!

I’m a big fan of integrity.

I always have been, and over the years I like to think I’ve operated with integrity as a foundation to my actions. In fact I get very frustrated when I see others clearly acting without integrity, and I get *very* frustrated with myself if I think I have slipped up myself.

For me, integrity is all about doing the right thing, treating other people properly, as you would want them to treat you, for example.

That may sound obvious, but it does then beg the question – ‘why do so many people *not* do the right thing?’

Phew, there are many answers to that question, but for the purpose of this article, I’d narrow it down to two – lack of education, and peer pressure. It could be that someone genuinely doesn’t know they are not doing the right thing, and that’s where the education comes in. If they’ve been brought up in an environment where certain actions are considered ok or normal, then they’ll act the same way unless they are educated otherwise.

That’s where peer pressure comes in. In that environment, even if someone does realise that the way they are acting is not the right way, it can be hard, sometimes dangerous to go down a different road.

Family, friends, the media, can all be saying and doing one thing, so if anyone is considering acting a different way, then they have to consider the consequences, possible backlash.

Here’s the thing though…

It may feel safer, easier, to just go with the flow, to keep your head down, to not make waves. It’s what most people do, so why shouldn’t you just do the same, right?

It may feel easier, yes, in the short term, but in the long term? No.

In the long term it eats away, because you know it’s not right. You know it’s impacting others in a negative way, and it’s also impacting *you* in a negative way.

The longer it carries on, the further away you travel from the real you.

So what’s the answer..?

The answer is to do the right thing, even if it means flying alone!

"Gordon Bryan", "Whitstable",

It might be difficult, but it might be far easier than you think! It could mean that you feel isolated, and that you *are* isolated from the people around you, but if they’re acting in a way you know is wrong, then you should be asking if you want to stay connected to that crowd.

Although doing the right thing may isolate you from *some* people, it won’t isolate you full stop, because the world is full of people who choose to do the right thing, and choose to welcome anyone else who acts that way. You’ll find a new crowd to fit into, and it’ll be a crowd that makes you feel better, makes you feel right, makes you feel like you can fly without criticism.

Of course, another key point in all of this, is when it comes to doing the right thing towards others, it’s just as valid a point when it comes to doing the right thing towards *yourself*!

Follow your passions, go after your goals, chase your dreams. Don’t settle. Don’t put them away in the cupboard marked ‘only dreams’ just because someone else says so. Live the life you know you were meant to be living. That’s the right thing for you, and if means moving away from certain people, so be it.

I did say there were many layers to consider with this image, which is why I like it so much! So, get back in line with what you know is the right thing to do, and if you’re not sure, find out!

Then be prepared to stand up for it– you might find you bring others along for the right, you might find you plough a new furrow by yourself but oh, the abundance, the satisfaction, the personal development it brings is almost immeasurable.

Try it, you might be surprised. You might be transformed!

Ok, I’d love to hear what you think – do leave a comment.

‘Til Next Time,
Health & happiness,
P.S. Don’t forget to grab my free 8 step goal achievement formula, it’ll definitely help if you feel you need some guidance with doing the right thing!

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    • Indeed that’s true Roy, and that’s why it’s a complicated issue, with the question of whether integrity towards yourself and integrity towards others are one and the same. The answer is ‘sometimes’! 😉
      Thanks as ever,

  • Hi Gordon,
    Integrity is the name of the game and quite honestly nothing else comes close.

    A truly powerful post that reminded me just how important it is to stand up for what you truly belive in.

    Many thanks Gordon for this very important share.

    Best wishes from the remote Thai village narketer


    • Thanks Peter!
      Yes, I think it’s so important, but do acknowledge it can be hard for people to do it. However, acknowledging the difficulty of it is part of the progress to doing it, so it’s onwards and upwards!
      Thanks as ever for stopping by,