Stop Moaning, Start Doing!

The quote image I’m looking into this time is one of the simpler ones…

Stop moaning. Start doing.

Pretty simple eh? Some might call it ‘stark.’ However you’d describe it, it’s powerful, so let’s take a look in a bit more depth…

Moaning, ah moaning. It’s a great way to vent frustration – ‘why can’t so and so do this, why can’t they do that, why is it raining, so unfair, why me?’ and so on and so on.

It can become a habit we don’t even realise we have slipped into, and the stream of moaning can turn into an endless flow, so much so that it becomes our default setting! It then comes as a surprise to us when we have something positive to say, and in fact it can be so much of a shock that we follow up the positivity with more moaning, just because it’s more comfortable that way.

That’s the key – moaning, by and large, is comfortable.

If we moan about what others are, or are not doing, it provides us with an ongoing excuse for not doing anything about anything ourselves! If someone, heaven forbid, dares to suggest taking action instead of moaning, it’s met with the response of ‘oh you don’t understand!’ which as you surely realise, is more moaning used as a defence mechanism.

Moaning also means we think that things could be different. It could be argued that this is not true in all cases, but in most case it is. We think things could be different, but we don’t want to take on the action to change it ourselves.

That might be because we don’t know how to do it, or don’t think we’ll be able to. Maybe we’re worrying about what others might think of us, of if we fail, or maybe it just seems like too much work.

So, it’s easier to moan, right?

"Gordon Bryan", "The Great Gordino"

Well, no. I’d say no, it isn’t easier!

It might seem it short term, but if nothing changes, then all those short term moans just add up to long term frustration with no change in outcome!

There’s a better way. Take action.

Do something that moves the situation from the one you don’t like, and moan about, to the one you *do* like.
Once you take action, start doing something about it, it can be revealing, and uplifting.

You might find that it was all massively easier that you ever thought, and the reason for the moan can be done away with.

Or, you might find that once you start doing something about it, you realise that it might be a long hard job to change things. It’s at this point that you need to focus on habit and momentum.

The more you do, the more you believe you can, so the more you do in turn. That keeps going until habit kicks in, so that the doing becomes the default setting instead of the moaning.

Once this happens, even though the situation might still not be to your liking, the way you talk about it will change, because the way you think about it will have changed. The negativity and frustration of doing nothing will be replaced by energy and positivity about the future outcome.

That set up spills out into other areas of your life, and it will spill out to others too. You might even find *yourself* at the end of moans now, from the other moaners who can see you leaving them behind!

So, a simple set of words, yes, but powerful. Look to your own moans. Are you using them as a comfort blanket, an excuse for not taking action. If you’re honest, that may well be the case, and if so, bravo for being honest with yourself to realise it, and now you know what you need to do – stop moaning, start doing!

I’d love to hear your views as ever…

‘Til Next Time,
Health & Happiness,
P.S. If you feel you might need a hand to make the jump from moaning to action, then why not take a look at my Transform Your Life Now! coaching programme. While you’re there you can grab my 8 step goal achievement formula too 😉

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  • I think it’s always better to be at “cause” rather than “Affect” at least that way you take responsibility for your actions and then you really can’t moan about the consequences!

  • Thanks for informative post. A new perspective or new words…. to say something familiar. I hadn’t thought of procrastination as moaning… or the comfort of moaning. It’s bizarre in a way that we might be more comfortable moaning instead of moving into massive action, but is true for so many.

    Pushing ourselves into new space is challenging.

    Thanks for the push.
    Happy New Year.

    • Hi Donna,
      Yes, I enjoy seeing how I can come at self improvement points from different angles.
      It is indeed true that moaning is more comfortable than taking action for so many – I’ve been guilty of it myself!
      I think they key is honesty about it, so it can then be tackled.
      Onwards and upwards, Happy New Year to you too!

    • Hi Roy,
      Yes, it’s simple, but hugely powerful if genuinely taken on board.
      If more people did that, it would not only help them, as individuals, but would help society in general too!